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It’s seems to be all coming to a head right now. For those who don’t know…I have 4 kids. My kids are not over scheduled in activities. They each have one thing they really love and I support them in that activity. But then you multiply that times 4 + school activities + my own work + a husband + trying to be healthy + keeping up my house + the dog + the cat + the…… = One Very NOT Perfect, Overextended & Exhausted Mom. You all know what I’m talking about.
For the most part, I think I have a healthy attitude towards it all. I hate cooking and cleaning. I hire someone to clean every two weeks and I just deal with the cooking as it comes.
Is My House Good Enough?
I don’t really care what other people think about my house. If someone thinks it’s a disaster and doesn’t like it, then they don’t have to come over. BUT… I don’t like my house right now. There is stuff everywhere. I spend most of my days in this house and I feel so uninspired and depressed in it. I’m not asking for perfection, just good enough! I want to feel happy in my home. So, it’s not even good enough for me right now.
Is My Body Good Enough?
I’ve gained 20 pounds and I’m not healthy. It sucks! I’m not happy about it. I’m trying to change it. My body isn’t good enough for me.
Is My Business Good Enough?
This is probably the one area where I feel like I’m doing all that I can. Could I do more? Yes, but for me, I’m happy with where I’m at. As a working mom, I can’t give any more to my business than I do right now. My blog is the one place where I am finding happiness at this moment. I love what I do. I love the challenge of working hard to make more of my blog. I love the challenge of learning how to be a better writer. I love meeting new people and networking. It is good enough for me right now.
Is My Family Good Enough?
My kids are good kids. They all are happy, get good grades, are active and I love them all. Do I wish they would help more? Yes! Do I wish they would all happily do their chores and have them done when I want them done? Yes!
Is My Marriage Good Enough?
I love my husband very much. He helps with whatever he can, he’s an awesome provider and he supports me 100% in whatever I want to do. We have our ups and downs and stressful times, but I know in the end he is always there.
Am I Good Enough?
And this is where it falls apart. I look at most of the parts of my life and they are good enough, so why do I not feel like I am good enough? What is it that I’m expecting me to do that I’m not? Why do I feel that when I give 110% that it isn’t good enough?
Why do I always feel like I should be doing more? I should have a cleaner house. I should have a better body. I should be making more money. I should love cooking healthy food for my family. It’s the “shoulds” that make us feel like we are not good enough.
Good Enough is the New Perfect
Reading Good Enough is the New Perfect (their blog) by Becky Beaupre Gillespie & Hollee Schwartz Temple gave me a new way to look at my life. If you read this book expecting to have all the answers to make your life perfect, then you will be disappointed. It isn’t an answer book, but rather a book that guides you to find the answers for yourself.
My favorite part of the book were the short bits of wisdom that started each chapter. The biggest lesson I learned from reading Good Enough is the New Perfect is that there is no one answer. We need to decide for ourselves what good enough is and then be happy with our decision and choices. That doesn’t mean you can’t ever change your mind, but you need to be making your decisions based on your own happiness. You will never be good enough when you compare yourself to others.
Here are a few of the bits of wisdom that stuck in head:
- You can have it all, just not at the same time.
- Balance isn’t having perfect harmony every day.
- Sometimes the biggest problem is lack of time. Solve, don’t blame.
- Figure out what you’re will to do to make it work.
- Defining success on your own terms is a key to finding happiness.
This post started quite differently than it ended. I started by wanting to show all the ways that my life is not good enough. But while writing it all out, I realized that my life is good enough for ME right now!
Disclosure: I received that book, Good Enough is the New Perfect in exchange for this review through From Left to Write. All opinions are always 100% my own.
Let’s Talk About Being Good Enough!
What are your thoughts on being good enough? Do you feel you are good enough? Have you read Good Enough is the New Perfect?